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Sep 12, 2022

September is Suicide Prevention Month and I wanted to bring a guest who could share their experience losing a loved one from death by suicide.

3 weeks prior to giving birth to triplets, Barbara Rubel’s father died by suicide. Her story was featured in an Emmy award winning documentary, “Fatal Mistakes” and she shares her story in her recent book, “But, I Didn’t Get to Say Goodbye”. She is a board certified expert in traumatic stress and she is here today to help you understand the effects of trauma, help build your resilience through laughter, optimism and self-compassion. Barbara Rubel’s specialty is burnout, vicarious trauma, and compassion fatigue.

In this episode you will learn:

  • Managing grief after a suicide
  • Reactions to a suicide
  • What impacts grief after a suicide
  • A palette of grief - suggestions to help those left behind

But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: Helping Families After a Suicide tells the story, from the perspective of a family, as they are rocked by suicide and reeling from the aftermath.

The reader will see the transformation of feelings after going through death by suicide. The revised edition is an evidence-informed and contemporary treatment of a devastating form of loss that uses the artful device of a hypothetical case study to render it in human terms.

The reader will understand how to make meaning in the loss, and ways to experience personal growth. This self-help book was revised to provide guidance and education for clinicians and families to help suicide loss survivors.

Part 1 offers a basic understanding of suicide, suicide loss survivors, and complicated grief. Chapters have been substantially updated, based on the latest research.

The chapters in Part 2 build upon one another sequentially, from the day of the suicide to the anniversary of the death. At the end of each chapter, there are follow-up questions to explore in counseling sessions, support groups, or at home.


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